Your fav #Savage has been on the receiving end of the #Fyouchallenge. Her colleagues say she’s been stopping their bags, even the men have been weighing in on the matter, the social media courtroom has taken sides.
Defendants: For Tiwa, yeah well, she can do no wrong in their eyes. The other chicks are just jealous because she’s making it big and their own career is more or less dead.
Prosecutors: If they said she did that, then “she frigg’n did that!” For there’s no smoke without fire. All the other females can’t just gang up against one person, there must be an atom of truth in there.
These are the sides that social media has taken.
While the drama is ongoing, here’s something that sticks out: “Jealousy”.
Many of the females think that everyone opposing or that has something to say about #Savage is just plain Jealous. There’s this funny meme that’s trending. It’s the meme of a truck with the inscription “Jealousy is the last class to attend before witchcraft”. Almost everywhere you turn, ladies have it up on their feed as if to agree with the saying. So, we made it an open debate (feel free to chip in).
“Is jealousy bad in its entirety? Below are some of the responses we got. We might not be able to include all the comments, but we would also like to know what you think.
Person 1 (female): I would like to think that jealousy isn’t entirely bad. It is human nature to get jealous. What is bad is to let jealousy consume you to the point where you begin to think/or plot evil against a person. God is a Jealous God. Does that make Him evil? Even in a relationship/marriage recipe, a pinch of jealousy is needed to make it work. In conclusion, I would like to think of jealousy as “unexpressed admiration.” What you do after, determines if it is witchcraft or not.
Person 2 (Male): In response to the above, I think you are mixing up envy with jealousy. Envy is a natural emotion to have. What you others have but you don’t, makes you envious of them; not because you don’t want them to have it, but because you want to have it too. Jealousy, on the other hand, is you not wanting the other person to have it and wanting to take it away from them. That’s my opinion anyways…
Person #3 (Female): I agree with Person#1. However, only a small percentage of people can manage the emotion well. But with Person #2, I totally disagree and here’s why. Envy is evil and not a natural emotion. The devil works better with envy or rather puts envy in us. Jealousy is what’s natural between two people who love one another. It can even be between two friends of the same sex (mostly with ladies). They wouldn’t like to see another person getting close to their best friends. Envy does not exist in a love relationship at all. That’s my 2 cents.
Person #2 (Male): At Person #3, I’ll just leave you with this. It’s culled from Broda Google 😎. Envy vs. Jealousy. The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. Many people glamourize jealousy by saying it’s a sign of love. It’s not! It’s a sign of insecurity and reflective of seeing your partner as an object to be possessed. It’s a negative emotion stemming from both desire and insecurity, but not love. Me: With envy we covet, i.e. want what the other person has but not necessarily doing anything about it. But jealousy, on the other hand, makes you want to do something negative about it.
I know you just sighed. Hold on, other debaters had some really interesting views.
Person #4 (male): Galatians 5:19-21 (Amplified Bible) says: “Now the practices of the [a] sinful nature is clearly evident: they are sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality (total irresponsibility, lack of self-control), [b] idolatry, [c] sorcery, hostility, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions [that promote heresies], envy, drunkenness, riotous behavior, and other things like these. I warn you beforehand, just as I did previously, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
Because I firmly believe in the bible, I think they are all bad, be it envy or jealousy. If God says it’s bad, then it’s bad.
Person #1 to Person #4: Would you say you have never felt envy or jealousy before?
Person #4 to Person #1: It’s an emotion natural to humans but it is not justifiable
Person #1 to Person #4: But you know God Himself is jealous yeah? So, is He not justified when He punishes others for loving another and not Him? Why then should people speaking their minds be tagged “witches” and said to be jealous?
Person #4 to Person # 1: We are like God but not God. We can be questioned but He can’t. If He says we shouldn’t be like this, we shouldn’t. God’s jealousy in the Bible, e no lead to some destruction of people or abandonment of the Israelites and stuff like that?
Person #5: Jealousy is a bad thing… Even in a fancy gift wrap, it’s still bad.
Person #6: It’s normal and human for these things to come up but when we let it get the better part of us, that’s when it becomes terrible hence the meme. The bible groups things like this together. It condemns all these things. They are bad and sinful, but they come just as sin does. We only need to pray for grace that they don’t overcome us
Person # 7: Jealousy and envy are different. Jealousy is when I’m scared that someone will take or is taking what I have. Envy is being covetous. Envy and jealousy are natural to all of us. But we must be able to have a limit. I can be envious of someone’s state of mind or what they have. If someone has a great relationship with his family, I can be envious of that. Both emotions must be controlled, or it could lead to hate or damage. The trick to getting over negative emotions is to intentionally shake it off. It might be natural to us, but it doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The more we practice shaking off negative emotions, the better we are at it. I used to think I could not control getting angry; nowadays, I can see something that infuriates me, get angry at that moment but minutes later, I’ve shaken it off.
We must never allow negative emotions to take over our sense of justice. While I might be jealous that another lady is getting too close to my husband, I cannot be chasing my husband or the lady around, that would lead to greater problems. While I’m dealing with anger, I must also quickly overlook another person’s shortcomings, or it will lead to hate and hate will eventually lead to wishing destruction on someone else. Even if I covet what belongs to someone else, I must intentionally decide that God will give me what I need and want at the appropriate time. At least, when I envy someone, I also pray that God will give me what is tailored to my needs because what another person has might not necessarily be for me. So, now, I have intentionally shifted my envy from a negative place to a place of prayer.
But hey, what do you think?! This debate is still on-going, and we want to hear from you.
Have you ever felt jealous? Does being envious make you evil? Is it really the last class before witchcraft? lol