Tracy looked at her baby crying & she started to cry too. Why is she crying? she screamed; Make her stop pleass, she said to no one. She has been feeling down ever since she had her baby and it grew worse after her mum left her to care for her baby alone. The first week, she didn’t feel like holding her baby. She didn’t feel the happiness they said she would feel when she holds her baby. Instead, she just wanted to lie in bed and sleep all day, doing nothing and caring for no one not even herself.
At first, Henry, didn’t see it as a problem but lately, he has become worried due to the lack of attention she pays to everything. Now a day, he comes home to no food, a dirty house and a crying baby with wife who hardly took a shower. He had talked to his mum and mother in-law about it and they both told him the same thing… ‘It will pass just show her some love’. But these days, he doubts that as she is like a zombie, hardly sleeping, always seated in front of a blank TV.
Today, he walked into her screaming and crying at the baby who also was wailing in tears. He ran to get the baby and noticed she was soiled. He changed her and fed her, thinking about his wife and what to do. After putting the baby to bed, he walked up to his wife who was seated in front of a blank TV, eating ice cream and crying. He drew her close and held her tight. Scared and confused, he started to cry too. Asking her what was wrong.
A lot of women experience postpartum depression (PPD) without knowing what it’s called or what it’s about. Especially in our country where mental medical care is frowned upon and stigmatized, it is hard to detect. It is medically proven that 1 out of every 10 women experience PDD and most come out of it after a week or two. But a few hardly do & it can be a problem for them as they might get violent towards the baby. This is the dangerous part. There are various symptoms that might show that you are suffering from PDD after you’ve given birth as well as there are various causes of PDD. The most common is if you have suffered from depression before or if you had depression or anxiety during pregnancy or baby blues after pregnancy.
Note though that it is not your fault. PDD is a combination of hormonal, environmental, emotional and genetic factors that are beyond your control. But if you notice any of the symptoms listed below, get medical attention immediately.
You could have PPD if you experience five or more of the following symptoms almost every day, for most of the day, for at least two consecutive weeks:
1. Extreme sadness, emptiness, or hopelessness
2. Crying all the time
3. Loss of interest or lack of enjoyment in your usual activities and hobbies
4. Trouble falling asleep at night, or trouble staying awake during the day
5. Loss of appetite or eating too much, or unintentional weight loss or weight gain
6. Overwhelming feelings of worthlessness or overpowering guilt
7. Restlessness or sluggishness
8. Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
9. Feeling that life isn’t worth living
Other possible signs you might be depressed include:
10. Being irritable or angry
11. Avoiding friends and family
12. Worrying excessively about your baby
13. Being uninterested in your baby, or unable to care for her
14. Feeling so exhausted that you’re unable to get out of bed for hours
(In rare cases, some women with PPD experience delusional thoughts or hallucinations and may harm their baby).
PDD is very treatable so you do not have to worry or suffer alone. If you need someone to talk to, please visit a qualified medical doctor or a mental health practitioner. They will be glad to help you through this period and open your eyes to the joy of motherhood.
Do join us also on the 16th of September, 2017, as we celebrate our 1st year anniversary with free medical checkup and consultation.
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