#WomanWednesday


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Nov 2019
When You Have A Friend! 2

I always envied the relationship my siblings had with each other. It became so obvious after Mum died. Even at the burial, they held hands and cried on each other’s shoulders. I could not even shed a tear, I was crying inside of me but outside I was plain-faced. I felt a pain deep down and I had no one to share it with so it was no surprise that I moved out weeks after my Mum died. My siblings, especially my sister, tried to keep in touch. I remember the night before I moved out. She came into......

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When You Have A Friend!

When You Have A Friend!

Friends are hard to find, true friends are like the siblings you should have had and real friends got your back through thick and thin. These are not just lyrics to trendy songs but a fact of life. Some people are lucky to have a sibling as their best friend, some, their mum or dad while others, a relative. I was not born that lucky. I was the rebel in my family, so it is no wonder that even though I had two siblings, a girl and a guy, I was practically lonely. My Mum and I were almost...


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Maximizing The Seasons As Women - #WomanWednesday

Maximizing The Seasons As Women

Women, they say, make the best entrepreneurs but we don’t always make the richest. One reason, I believe, is that we analyze a lot and hardly take risks in a whimper. But imagine the kind of dynasties we’d build if we did! Opportunities can be tricky, we can never tell if it’s the right or wrong one and when you think about it too much, you miss out on it. We must understand God’s promises to us. It helps us see opportunities when they arise. When we seek His wisdom, we know when to seize and maximize chances, and...


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Don’t Let Challenges Stop You, Live Without Fear Of The Unknown

It’s called a ticking clock. Over the years, women have been made to believe that they have a time limit so they need to marry early and have kiddies early to be the perfect woman. Especially in Africa… Nigeria to be precise, women are seen as a woman of respect only if they are married and have kids and having kids late is frowned upon, this puts pressure on almost every Nigerian woman. Mia felt lost and lonely. She moved out of her parents’ house at age 29 because of the constant bickering about when she was going to...


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When The Saints Go By!

When The Saints Go By!

While in the university, Ifeyinwa ensured she dated only the rich guys. Even when they treated her like dirt, she didn’t care. For her, follow the money was the ko-ko. She had been in the school fellowship choir but she secretly loved the badass parties the rich kids threw. She wanted so badly to be rich and so ensured she was a part of their lifestyle, even though it was against everything her parents taught her. She would sneak out of school so no one would notice and join their parties. She got drunk a couple of times and...


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Winter Is Gone!

Winter Is Gone!

We are often not prepared for the downsides of life. For instance, a bride is so carried away, planning the perfect fairytale wedding that it’s a big shocker to learn that in real life, marriages aren’t like a fairytale or Hollywood love story. Or the youth corps member who got it good, posted to a big city and to one of the best companies in the city, only to find out that the work culture is chaotic and one will practically live in the office. We are in the 4th quarter of the year and in most cases, we’re...


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Hunger Strike – The Feeding System

Hunger Strike – The Feeding System

We are in the popular age of #FitFam – special diets, intermittent fasting, restriction of certain classes of foods, regimented exercise routines, or at least recommended physical activity to keep in shape and healthy. We ladies have jumped on the bandwagon, and don’t get me wrong… there’s nothing as physically attractive as a #YummyMommy slaying! However, a beautiful, snatched woman with eyebrows on fleek, having both career and side hustles booming, yet weak in her spirit is an endangered soldier in the kingdom. That’s the point of my contemplation this #WomanWednesday. It’s not that serious, you might say. Oh,...


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Hunger Strike – The Work System

It’s a ‘sin’ for women to hunger (be ambitious). Yes, it is a sin for women to hunger to achieve more, build more, groom more, want more, and want to be more! For centuries, we allowed ourselves be set aside, feeding our husbands’ ego, stomach and bed. Then a new era came, self-realization: that we could be more for our husbands, for our children, for our families. We started wanting to do more, so getting an education was a new pride. Through education, we saw that we could assist our husbands at home and things improved but with improvement...


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Hunger Strike – The Home Front

Hunger Strike – The Home Front

As a woman, I have come to understand the role I have to play in society. As much as I don’t like it and feel I should not be dictated to, it is what it is. As a Christian, I have found it hard to understand why I have to succumb when I have my will. Why do I have to be virtuous in a world of vile? As a wife, I now better understand why I had to be a wife before being a Mom. No offence to all the #SingleMoms out there, but there is something you...


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Hunger Strike 1

Hunger Strike 1

Whatever we think of, what we believe could happen, will happen if we trust in God and believe in His promise to us. This is a fact: some call it the Secret, some the law of attraction but we know the truth, we know it is the act of FAITH. It is no surprise that whatever a woman’s heart desire is can come to pass. She can will in a faithful husband – after philandering (by him) and serious kabashing (prayers) by her), he will come back home and to his senses. She can will in responsible children –...


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