#WomanWednesday


15
May 2019
The Victim And The Victor Woman Wahala 1

I felt like the worst sinner on earth. It touched me deeply because I knew I was one of the ladies Kendra was talking about. I should have been by her side, dancing, jubilating and thanking God for her miracle. Instead, I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me because of the shame I felt. This shame started 5 months ago as ‘gist’ amongst 4 church workers. I, being one of the four. “Just look at her, with no shame at all, flaunting her bump in public”…Dara spat as she completed her sentence. “May God save us......

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Hey Girl, Organize Your Life!

Toni, how do you do it? How do you balance all these many demands in your life without dropping any balls? How is it that you fire on all cylinders and still look like you’re not breaking a sweat? Kachi was confused. She was tired, worn out and the day was just halfway gone. Hey, she was on track with her meeting preparation for 3:00 pm but Bobby, her 2-year-old had just hit a growth edge and wasn’t sleeping well, so he wasn’t very happy, and neither was mommy! She and Sam (her hubby) had just patched up a...


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Battle Of The Moms

Battle Of The Moms

Babes, this thing we call #motherhood is not easy for anyone o. Trust me; I have been in both shoes and I can testify. First and foremost, I must doff my hat and flap my apron to all #WorkingMoms who have it together, despite the nagging boss, unpleasant colleagues, crying baby and demanding husbands. Especially those who still find time to commit to #service, working for God. How do you do it, girl? Are you three persons in one body? And some of you still have the strength to keep up the looks and figure. Omo, I have turned...


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The Walk Of Shame 2

The Walk Of Shame 2

They always leave tell-tale signs but we always choose to ignore it. I saw the signs, in short, I saw the reality, not just a sign, but I told myself that it was not what it seemed and I should stop being suspicious. That thought, at that moment, benefitted me even though I knew at the long run it was the wrong thought. Oh how much he revealed. Oh, how much I chose to ignore. Even when I caught him; It was around 4:30 am. I woke up and noticed he wasn’t in bed, we were at his house...


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The Walk Of Shame

The Walk Of Shame

I loved being a side chick. I remember Tade telling me how much he was happy having me in his life. His main chick was an ‘arrangey’. His parents and her parents had been friends for a long time and when they noticed their children were not getting married, so they set them up to be married. However, they both could not tolerate themselves. So I was a blessing in disguise (according to Tade). If only I had come earlier, he won’t have been in this mess. To prove to me he loved me and not her, he took...


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When Sisters Fight: Fighting The Good Fight

When Sisters Fight: Fighting The Good Fight

I was taught by my Mom that one should never use hurtful words when fighting with anyone especially with the people we love because we can’t take them back afterwards. “Over my dead body will I ever step foot into your house again. You are an apology, a failure, nothing good can ever come out of you, f**l”. Gwen spat as she walked out on a stunned Omo. Omo could not understand how their argument escalated so quickly to such hateful words. She sat back on a sofa in her living room and looked all around before she broke...


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Being A Woman!

Being A Woman!

Don’t sit that way, sit upright. Don’t look too sweet, look sweet. Don’t bite your nails, cut your nails. Don’t talk too loud, don’t whisper too low. We have all these rules and counter rule we must follow to be a lady. It’s like the world is built to confuse us or dissuade us. They tell us who to like and who not to like as if being female is not already too much work. Think about it. Some days ago, as I was watching Trevor Noah, there was a segment where a lady was arguing about life not...


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Peer Pressure And The Sore Thumb 2

Peer Pressure And The Sore Thumb 2

Tito got into trouble. Oh yes, she did! The school authority was on her tail concerning drug abuse and she was facing a prison term if found guilty as the School had been looking for a scapegoat. Tito’s parents were mortified. Their brilliant daughter was facing expulsion and prison time. Worst still, she had been gang-raped and can’t identify the young men who raped her. Tito was torn between keeping her new sisters or staying in school. If she told on them, she’d be labelled a rat and would never have the opportunity to join any other chick flick...


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Peer Pressure And The Sore Thumb

Peer Pressure And The Sore Thumb

Tito always wanted to fit in. She was pretty with a nice figure, but she lacked one thing, being a ‘real’ chic, 100% female. For instance, when she was 7, all her friends and female classmates wanted to be princesses but she wanted to be a soldier. They all loved dolls and playing dress up and tea parties but she loved to climb, play ball and video combat games. Her Dad loved her to bits and played with her every opportunity he had but her Mum worried for her, saying she will find it hard to get a man....


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Mom Guilt 3 - Are There Perfect Moms?

Mom Guilt 3 – Are There Perfect Moms?

Who’s a perfect Mom? Please comment below, so we can applaud you! Why beat yourself up because you can’t seem to get her ponytail right? Who says Mary is better than you, just cause she bakes every weekend for her children? Why do you think that you’re the worst Mother on earth because you failed to see your child jump when he did and break his arm? We all have moments of Mom Guilt. Thinking: how could she look so beautiful with 4 children between the ages of 3 and 9. You think she has always had her hair...


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