#WomanWednesday


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Mar 2019
A Mother's Guilt - What's That?

This thing called ‘Mom Guilt’ is popular, globally, in the spheres of maternity, positive parenting, intentional motherhood and so on. However, in Nigeria, the name is new but not the feeling. Mom Guilt is a general occurrence among mothers. It can happen to any mom at any time and show itself in different “mom” situations. There’s a lot of pressure from families, older moms, other moms, the media and society at large, about what a mom is and what she is expected to do. It is particularly worse for us Nigerians because of what our moms have gone through......

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A Mother's Guilt

A Mother’s Guilt

It started when I was in the office and looking through Instagram. My friends had posted pictures of them with their kids; one of them was having a party for her child. It was such a beautiful party, everything was so organised the colours were the same throughout from the chair to the table to the cutlery to the plates! Everything was from the child’s favourite cartoon and she said she organised, bought and arranged the party by herself. Another picture was at a child school: they had a children’s carnival and she showcased the pastries that she made...


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Painful Breakups Can Be God-sent

Painful Breakups Can Be God-sent

My relationship was all rosy. We had been together for over 2 years. Friends commented on how good we were, together. Even he agreed that we were good together. He called me his ride-or-die chic. The one who ‘gets’ him. So as much as I saw his lack of commitment, I believed the words spoken and fell deeply for him. Imagine the shocker I got when a phone call came and told me that my ride-or-die boyfriend was at Ikoyi Club, saying “I do” to someone else and not me. Oh, sure, he was going to die since our...


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The Truth About Valentine

The Truth About Valentine

Valentine’s day is celebrated by lovers. We all dress up in red and exchange gifts with the one we think we are in love with. Couples go out for dinner while some spend the full day celebrating their love. It’s funny how we have limited love to be expressed only on that day, or highly on that day! When it’s not expressed, we ladies go gaga and go as far as ending that relationship. The media doesn’t help matters either as they share memes of men absconding on their ladies on that day. Let’s also not forget about the...


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#Sisterhood: Challenging the Stereotype

#Sisterhood: Challenging the Stereotype

Oh! How the stereotype has painted us as weak, gossips, needy, vulnerable and…we are almost equated with children! But see, we are turning the world and the words around. #WomanWednesday Men say they can be better friends – they don’t fight, they discuss. I used to agree, hence I had so many male friends who actually call me ‘Bros’ because I was older and reasoned like them. I didn’t like making friends with females. Till date, I find it hard to start a conversation with a woman I don’t know because I felt we had little in common to...


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The Big Wedding

The Big Wedding

Mary was so excited about her wedding. I remember the glow in her eyes anytime she talked about her dress and her lil bridesmaid. She was having the wedding she always dreamt of. It was however funny that anytime I mentioned the groom, the glow varnishes like if she saw a ghost. I had to sit her down, friend-to-friend and ask her why she was going along with the wedding when it was obvious she wasn’t in love with him. Babe, she said: “I am the first girl and things are hard for my family. I need to take...


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She Is Not All That

She Is Not All That

Growing up, my Mum taught me to be loving, humble and submissive. She said a woman was meant to serve her husband and sons. On the other hand, my Dad taught me to be strong, self-assured and ambitious. He said women should know their worths so men do not take them for a ride. Growing up as a teen, I had friends who told me we were supposed to be soft, sexy and sensitive. If not, a man wouldn’t find us attractive. They told the fairy tale of a damsel in distress and how Prince Charming is to save...


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The Contact Lens of Faith

The Contact Lens of Faith

Ever wondered what beauty would have been like without contact lenses? I mean, they help give us a look that is fierce, bold and sexy at the same time. Most ladies who wear them, do so for aesthetics, hence they try to make it match their outfits. I used to have 4 different colours, one to represent the mood I wanted to elicit. The honey-coloured ones were my favourite, they made me feel sweet and cool or should I say, pretended to make me feel…? I also had the blue ones; that was when I wanted to look strange,...


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Raise Your (Wine) Glasses

Raise Your (Wine) Glasses

Crossover night was more than carols and worship for Rachel. It was an eye opener to what 2019 has in store for her; her dreams were about to see… God! Over the years, she’d always start the New Year with resolutions that she broke the very same day. Willingly or unwillingly, she never seem to keep them. The last year, she was told, instead, to set goals. Small attainable goals that will grow to big achievable goals. She started well as usual but 3 months after, the goals were only on paper. This year, however, felt different, is different!...


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The Queendom Idea

The Queendom Idea

Today on #WomanWednesday, we’ll be discussing elements of self-image and poise and its inherent idea of being a Queen, on earth, via His Kingdom. A number of issues arise in one’s life when they are not clear on identity. Who are you? Can you take a few seconds or minutes to answer that without discussing your occupation, marital status or family position? The best way to discover who you are is by understanding ‘WHOSE’ you are. You are God’s. You are the daughter of the Most High, with special blood running through your veins. You’re a Queen! Therefore you...


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