#WomanWednesday


21
Nov 2018
IDeas, I Dares and I Dears

Life is full of ideas. To make it through, you must dare yourself to succeed and when you do, it is expected to pass it on to some other dears. I felt the same way when I read the title for the first time. It sparked a cord, confusing at first but the bulb lit up and I woke up. We all have ideas we believe in; how our friends should behave, how the deal should turn out or how the audience should react. As women, we expect our children to be fair and beautiful, our wedding glamorous and......

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The Nollywood Idea

The Nollywood Idea

Tonimi was having a great day! She had just collided, almost dramatically, with her “Dear Future Husband”. She was rushing towards the elevator at work and next thing she knew, papers were flying everywhere and she was staring into the most beautiful brown eyes everrrr! Abi, isn’t that the beginning of happily ever after? They exchanged numbers, he looked like a man on a mission and she already started daydreaming in traffic, hyphenating her last name with his. What if he was a true playboy and really never commits to Tonimi? What if they never even make it to...


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All The Wrong Ideas

Fancy cars, beautiful clothes, expensive jewelry…they all come with being an attractive woman but is that all they come with? Temi believed that her good looks will land her a good man. She wanted fame and riches; celebrity life was her dream… wait – skip the ‘good’ for ‘wealthy’. ‘I do’ came easy to her as it carried the spotlights. The wedding was glamorous, no one cared that the groom had been married twice and much older. Months went by and the black eyes followed. She smiled for the cameras but cried behind them. Did her status attract such...


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Use Whathu Got!

Use Whathu Got!

Life was so unfair, thought Elaina. She sat with her hands over her head (typical African tragedy pose). Why didn’t God save Tade from the accident? Wasn’t he a real man of God? Feelings of grief, shame and anxiety kept flooding her heart. The sky had been dark grey since Tade, Elaina’s husband died 3 weeks ago. She was trying to be strong for the kids but it was so hard. Tade had served on staff at one of the popular Pentecostal churches and though at first, Elaina thought that being a pastor wouldn’t pay the bills, she had...


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Get It Out Of The Way

Get It Out Of The Way

I used to be a tomboy but as an older lady of 20, I found my sexy. Short dresses and miniskirts became a favourite and a replacement for baggy jeans and sweatshirts. Matching clothes, shoes and bags didn’t pass me buy. What about the monochromes? We don did it and don’t even get me started about boots, all types! Collections of makeup sets were part of the game and oh, I could pass as a make-up artist with my collection. Shopping is bonding; you can’t go shopping alone. I mean the giggles, the laughs, the clothes-testing and most especially,...


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Network = Net Worth

Network = Net Worth

Rachel was grumpy and extremely irritable. In fact, she had been irritable and easily ‘offendable’ (if that’s a word) for the last 2 weeks. She just couldn’t shake off the bad mood. This morning, she thought maybe it was because she hadn’t had her usual cup of coffee, maybe she just needed a pick-me-up. She’d get better as the day progresses, hopefully. Nope. Even Sharon, the easy-going intern, was getting on Rachel’s nerves. It wasn’t hormonal, her physical health was intact and nothing odd was going on at home. So it was time for a full-on self-analysis. Like a...


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The Side To The Side Chic

The Side To The Side Chic

But I warned you, I told you nothing good ever comes out of being the side chic. It’s only cool on the tabloids but not in reality. Look at you now, the talk of the town. You can’t even show your face anymore at all the choicest bars in GRA Ikeja. Your colleagues look at you like you’re dirt. But you’re really a diamond of great worth! Diane’s story should have been your eye opener but you chose to ignore. You said Baron wasn’t married so you can’t end up like her yet you did. Diane’s story was that...


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Making Metamoney Moves

Making Metamoney Moves

Susan is more than your average babe, she is a chicpreneur making big-time money moves. With a successful fashion boutique and an upcoming food service brand, she’s ticking all the right boxes. But is she playing to win? We’re at the start of Q4 2018 and Susan, as usual, is reviewing the books with her trusted accountant and advisor. As a bonafide SME CEO, she is what we women would call goals, an inspiration to us all. “Emeka, I see the figures and they look good. But something is not right. We must find a way to gain even...


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Faith To Fight And Faith To Rest

Faith To Fight And Faith To Rest

Zizi and her friends where having their usual Thursday girl’s night out and as girls, family was the topic of the day. They talked about their men and their children. About school and play. They talked about everything then about faith. Then Zizi asked a question that had been disturbing her for a while now… ‘why do we have to pray hard and fast if faith is real’? Hetty was more shocked than the others and without thinking, she said, “because faith without action is nothing”. “Then that is a problem, because if we believe that there is a...


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Love That Works

Love That Works

It’s Wednesday at 4pm and Babz hadn’t called her. She was fuming, “It’s like this man isn’t ready for me at all”. Because you see, it wasn’t just any ordinary Wednesday, it was their 2nd wedding anniversary. As her mobile phone stayed silent and she rounded up from work, Tumi’s emotional temperature increased with every second that passed. Her mind was abuzz with a gazillion of things that were going wrong in their relationship. From ‘forgetting’ important dates, to not being willing to see a counselor together, Tumi started rehearsing her speech for when she got home. It was...


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