TEXT: 1 Timothy 6:10, Romans 12:2
Generally, the human mind is influenced by socioeconomic events around it, but when we give our lives to Christ, that is supposed to stop. The renewal of mind is fundamental and critical to enjoying the extraordinary life. We are exhorted in Romans 12:2 to “…be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”. Real change happens when the mind is renewed. Many of us carry the same mindset into God’s kingdom.
Marriage is a ministry of service. You go in to serve and he/she who goes in to serve forsakes rights & entitlements for the sake of one another. Marriage is a covenant because spiritual forces are involved. If your spouse had spiritual battles before hand, you now fight such battles together, or you both become bound … It’s the reason many want to change their spouses after marriage.
A guys attitude to money may be a prerequisite for dating, but source of income/livelihood should also be a prerequisite for marriage. If he/she was stingy before marriage, lies, nags, shouts, is lazy, etc; so sorry, you are in for the real deal after marriage, in full measure pressed down shaken together and running over.
You both signed to be together for better for worse! You’re both 1 not 2. You enjoy/suffer together. But as a covenant partner, don’t be the source of financial concern! As covenant partners, all money belongs to the commonwealth.
A situation where only 1 person is resourceful is like a car moving on 2 blown out tyres. When moving at top speed, it will only end in disaster. Both must exert themselves economically. The major contender here is attitude! Men are “designated providers”… But when a woman steps in, it should be for a while, not for ever, or else the piper dictates the tune (1 Tim. 5:8).
Never ask what she’s using her money for except out of concern for investment purposes. You can counsel when there’s need for counsel sir (See 2 Cor 10:6). Never ask for her ATM card, it erodes your manly dignity. You say you have ego, yet you collect her ATM card? Ah! Don’t lose your self esteem.
Cooperation is key. You are both responsible but it’s just that 1 has a higher level of responsibility in the commonwealth.
Here are a few things to help sort financial challenges in a marriage
- Run a family budget
- You both must earn income because Christ has given us all that pertains to life and Godliness. Proverbs 31 only gives us an idea of a resourceful woman not that she’s the one in charge. Guys, the headship/leadership of a family is more than having an apparatus between your legs
- Keep heaven open over your family by giving tithes, offerings, prophet offerings and making other kingdom investments
- Maintain a simple lifestyle and learn financial freedom
- Stop impulsive buying of things you don’t need including Aso Ebi and its likes
- Learn to save
- Depending on the level of trust between both parties, keep individual accounts but a common purse
- Don’t accumulate bills, organize your debt settlements and do it quickly
- Remember your parents
- Pay your taxes by being responsible citizens
May God give us wisdom for financial freedom and to invest wisely. May His grace liquidate every financial burden you may have been under in Jesus name.