The XXX Woman Vs The Xtraordinary Woman

Her name is Nadia and she is fine as can be. Skin smooth as silk, frontally endowed and backside even KK would be jealous of. Nadia has a 1000Mwt smile and has always been a slay queen.

Hi, I am Nadia, I’m so fine I get others to do my intro. However, sitting across the table from Joe, his eyes burning with anger and disappointment, I can feel my skin crawling. How did I get here?

Women as a sex symbol is an image I grew up with. All the adverts and movies helped to subliminally send the same message “a good-looking woman has the world at her feet”. So, I felt it was imperative to hide my intellect and focus on my body. From getting boys to do my assignments (frankly, I had to redo some) to getting men to pay my bills, it became second nature to use my sexuality as a tool.

Entering the world of work was no different. My first interview – tailored shirt with first 2 buttons undone, hip-hugging pencil skirt and skyhigh heels – the only questions were: “what is your name?” and “when would you like to start?” I loved the attention and didn’t mind ‘dumbing down’ to get it. In my world ‘hot & sexy’ and ‘brains & intellect’ don’t mix. Sound too smart and men are intimidated by you. So, a girl’s got to laugh at boring jokes and pretend like ‘risk appetite’ is French cuisine.

I’ve climbed the corporate ladder doing these. Funded my annual vacations and gotten out of trouble (it’s funny how people dissociate pretty people from mischief/negative outcomes), even when I own up, my bosses make excuses for me – it’s mind-blowing. I am ambitious and have long-term goals, but I realised that the title of ‘sexy lady’ came with a lot of assumptions about me being empty-headed. Most people related to me on a superficial basis and didn’t bother to discuss strategic issues with me. Even though I head the marketing team and own a line of beauty products (double jeopardy) it was generally assumed that I got here purely based on my looks (very true…) but I want to be more, do more and show that I can be taken seriously in the business world.

I met Joe eight months ago at a friend’s party; funny… that day I woke up grumpy and didn’t bother to wear makeup, I wore baggy shorts and a tank top. I just wanted to be seen as a person and not a piece of meat. Joe seemed to genuinely like me, not my body. Me! I could be straight with him, have witty conversations and didn’t have to pretend that my favourite colour is pink (there is nothing wrong with pink). We started dating officially five months ago and it has been amazing! He’s my dream come true and we are working on a viable business model to commercialize my beauty brand.

Fast-forward to today, it turned out that Joe was friends with the new CFO in my office and had started hearing stories about my ‘work-mask’. He invited me for lunch to hear my side of the story because the me he knew was different from the stories he heard. A woman’s sexuality is only a small part of what makes her special – character and intellect are equally as important. Woman, know thyself!

Woman! Don’t be afraid to be smart and sexy, strong and vulnerable, beauty and brains. Woman is the name and triple threat is the game!

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